l(oops)!
- "I'm privileged. I am better than others"
- "So, I shouldn't complain."
- "But I'm still anxious."
- "Why am I like this?"
- "I'm ungrateful."
- More guilt.
- More anxiety.
- Back to: "I'm privileged..."
If we are caught in a loop of self-doubt,
remember this -
your mind is asking the same questions because it's looking for certainty,
not because you're incapable.
You've already overcome things that once felt impossible,
even if you've forgotten what that version of you looked like.
Don't let one fearful chapter convince you that it is your whole story.
You don't have to become someone else to move forward,
you only have to trust the person you've been becoming all along.
Take one step, then another. Read it again, and do it.
Confidence isn't something you wait for,
it's something you quietly build every time you choose yourself
despite the doubt.
Sit with the loop
understand it
dont escape it
A spiral looks like a circle
until we notice it going up vertically like a line.
Maybe that's true..
We don't become a new person every time life gives us a lot to handle.
We simply revisit ourself from a different height into this loop
Every version of us still exists
not to confuse us,
but to remind how far we've come.
Isn't it called Growth?
Keep a smile as you read this - here, a lot of stories to move us every day.
Ours will also move us one day.
We usually want our stories to be unseen, unwritten, but when life is a like a story, it needs to be cheered up.
Different versions of us is not our story
Mistakes are not our story
Wins are not our story
Losses are not our story
they are just chapters
Our story is the courage to keep turning the page
Our story is choosing kindness after pain
Our story is finding ourselves after getting lost
Our story is not about being perfect
It is about becoming someone we can meet with peace
Our story was never meant to impress the world
It was meant to help us come home to ourselves
Oo Kathala is what storytellers say,
Oo Kavithala is what poets say,
and somewhere in between we become both
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Enter this Loop -
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DaelR3XOEz8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==
Watch Dear Zindagi Movie full once.
Also please watch Queen movie full once.
This loop, break it -
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DX3O0e3NR7f/?igsh=MWVlbGVsNWh3Mm13ag==
Sit and watch Girl Friend Movie once full
Sometimes the biggest prison isn't a bad relationship or a bad job. It's the story we keep telling ourselves: "I can't."
A bird doesn't trust the branch because the branch is strong.
It trusts its own wings.
If you spend your life looking for the perfect branch, you'll never discover you already had wings.
Break the LOOPS
No person is bad,
No person is weak to handle their life
Its just how we see them.
Do not loose yourself in the name of relationship or dependence,
Don't forget yourself in this process,
One day may come, you dont know how to exist,
you will be in a confused state.
You were in this phase once or twice last year, you are again in the same phase now and you go back to the place which disrespects you again and again.
You will lose yourself one day.
I know a girl who used to like reels - 'Magavaraki dooramuga maguvalepudu nadavalani telusukonave cheli"
a girl says - when GOD opens the door use it - here
a girl in loop - here
be this - here
1. Disrespect and saying it a joke?
2. Ignoring for hours/days and saying “busy.”
3. Making you feel dramatic for expressing feelings.
4. Comparing you to other women.
5. Not taking accountability, only excuses.
6. Flirting with others and calling it “harmless.”
7. Making you feel guilty for wanting bare minimum effort.
8. Raising voice instead of communicating.
9. Invalidating boundaries as “overreacting.”
10. Making you feel lucky that they chose you.
11. Disappearing when emotionally wounded and just say sorry.
12. Making doubt your self worth wihtout them
to
this is a loop
break them
you are bigger than what you think of yourself
Constant confusion is often the first sign that you’re in an emotionally unsafe relationship.
Because in an emotionally safe relationship, you question the problem.
In an abusive one, you question yourself.
And while you might be confused about how to resolve the problem you’re not chronically confused about what is real and what is not.
- Without that trust, even obvious harm becomes something you are willing to negotiate. We are okay with Abuse as we tell ourself.
- But even when there is conflict, when you're emotionally safe, you're not left questioning your own reality. You're left questioning the problem.
Body speaks.
Body tells.
Body is honest and sincere and intelligent too.
But, we are so used to listening to our mind. And mind starts playing all these tricks.
Break these trickful patterns
Why we keep getting attached to people who are not right for us, why this loop?
- YOU'RE NOT CHOOSING THEM. YOU'RE CHOOSING THE FEELING AND MEMORIES AND HELPLESSNESS TO JUST SURVIVE.
2. Avoiding Conflict: You often find yourself walking on eggshells around topics to avoid upsetting them.
3. Consistent Guilt and Shame: You feel guilt and shame often on your actions and feelings.
4. Isolation: You notice a growing distance between you and your friends or family, often feeling like you can’t share your true experiences.
5. Hiding Feelings or Problems: You feel compelled to suppress your emotions or hide your struggles from others.
6. Difficulty Asking for Help: You feel uncomfortable reaching out for support, even when you’re clearly struggling. You think, “I don’t want to bother them” or “I should be able to handle this on my own.”
7. Wearing Multiple Caps: You show up as the partner, friend, assistant, and cheerleader leaving little room for your own needs.
8. Changing Yourself: You often find yourself altering your behavior or beliefs to accommodate your partner.
9. Fear and Anxiety of Leaving: You stay because of the potential of the relationship wondering, “What if I’m wrong?” or “What if he changes?”
10. Feeling Like a Burden: You feel your needs are a burden to others or that they are less important.
finally anxiety, depression, a lack of trust within yourself, and a diminished sense of self.
He studies what she needs, then becomes it.
He doesn't show her who he is.
He shows her who she would never leave.
Because he already knows:
When the mask slips, she won't leave.
She'll fight to get that man back.
2. THEY USE HER EMPATHY AGAINST HER.
Every time he hurts her, there's an explanation.
He's stressed. His childhood was difficult.
She gives understanding, when she should've set boundaries.
So she stays.
3. THEY TEACH HER THAT LOVE MEANS ADJUSTING.
Little comments or a joke about her appearance, of the way she speaks.
"I'm only trying to help."
"Don't take everything so personally."
Nothing feels serious enough to leave over.
So she changes one little thing. Then another. Then another.
4. THEY WEAPONIZE GUILT.
Good news at work? Silent treatment.
She has a great time out with friends? "You've changed."
Her dreams start feeling selfish.
Her hobbies feel irresponsible.
So she chooses him. Again. And again.
5. THEY TAKE AWAY THE PARTS OF HER THAT MADE HER STRONG.
"You don't have to work."
"I'll take care of everything, I am your protection layer."
It sounds caring. Until she realizes,
she no longer has her own income. Her own confidence.
He didn't just take her independence.
He made her believe she didn't need it.
So leaving starts to feel impossible.
6. THEY REPLACE HER CONFIDENCE WITH SELF-DOUBT.
Every decision is questioned. Every opinion corrected. Every success minimized.
"Do you think this looks okay?"
"Do you think I should?"
"Are you sure?"
She no longer trusts her own voice. She trusts his.
So she stays.
And one day, she disappears.
She can't remember what she likes, what she wants, who she was before him.
The tragedy isn't that you loved too much.
It's that someone taught you to pour all of that love into the wrong person,
until there was none left for yourself.
Its never too late
Deeply.
With your words.
With your silence.
With your coldness.
With your control.
I wanted to save you.
To love you.
To be strong for you.
And in doing so, I lost myself.
I kept asking myself:
Am I too sensitive?
Too weak?
Not enough?
Today I know:
I was not too little.
I was too much for your fear.
Too honest for your mask.
Too real for your game.
You made me feel small
because you were afraid of being small yourself.
You controlled me
because you wanted to hide your own insecurity.
You left me
because you had already abandoned yourself.
And still:
I thank you.
Because through you, I learned to love myself.
To hold myself.
To save myself.
Today I see clearly:
A real man does not destroy a woman
to feel strong himself.
A real man stays.
Holds space.
Faces things.
Feels.
I hope you find the courage to truly see yourself.
Without lies. Without games.
Because what you did to me -
you do to yourself every single day.
I walked away.
And that was the best thing that could have happened to me.
Thank you for that
top 5 best things used against empaths:
1. figure out what a person is insecure about, so that they can be easily influenced
2. make you feel deeply understood, to use right words at right time with right amount of attention because someone feels understood
3. make sure every conversation ends with second person not them so that the second person can prove it to them always, thier worth, their loyalty, their intentions
because someone when tries to prove themselves, power dynamics change
4. they will never be consistent - enough attention to keep you interested, enough distance to keep you changes, enough scenarios to make you feel you need them
5. most imp, they make empath to feel every decision was theirs and this is the best manipulation because it will never look like control or toxic and it feels like a choice
6. they always stick to present, everything is okay right, we are okay now, our lifes are getting okay now, its only because one has the job, a person wanted to walk away very easily when there is no job for yaa. thats obvious.
7. they keep on telling, they are the reason for upliftment and the freedom of empaths life and without them nothing is possible by which they expect empath to declare allegiance to them even when they dont want them.
By the time empath understands this, they start defending this person who tried to destroy them
loop continus
p.s. their biggest fear is people protecting you, the resources which help empath stand for themself and their life and the day which the empath may heal enough
they need the main source of supply gets closed for that they make themself emotionally vulnerably and make empath feel guilty about this full process
You have seen a lot of these battles, bigger and bigger ones
You will face this too
Please please take a chance for yourself
not because someone gave you
its not you who speak when you say - they gave me a chance I am ruining it, no its not you!. You never wanted a chance, NEVER